Homophobia & Bullying Needs To Stop
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Opening Written by Jennifer Kiley
I have the film Bully and intend to watch once my psychotherapist returns from vacation. Those are her orders. No Hunger Games or Girls With the Dragon Tattoo either. Subject matter too triggering. Here is a video of the trailer to Bully and a film review plus a synopsis from the producers. I will be writing a film review once I have watched this very important film. Originally, b/c of language & subject matter those that really need to see this film were going to be kept from viewing it. If I understand correctly that is no longer the case. Some of the children that are shown in the film ended up becoming so overwhelmed by their being bullied that they committed suicide. Suicide is a strong reaction but it is not usually b/c you want to die but you just want the pain to end. I have those words echoing in my head as a mantra. I have had my own experience with all of these issues as so many of us have. Here is the the trailer to Bully. Following the material representing the film Bully is a video made by a young man who is not gay but takes on the topic of homophobia, bullying & respecting one another. You will be shocked by some of the material he posts from Facebook pages in the comment sections. It is quite horrible that people would hold such violent hatred toward other humans who are “different” then they think they are. But in fact, we are all different & unique. Why bullies cannot see that they would not want to receive the same treatment as they administer to those that they bully. I have been reading the book “Orange Petals in a Storm.” One of the many imaginative & magical elements in the story that absorb you includes the quite intriguing way the young girl and main character finds the resolutions to the many situations she encounters such as that of bullying and abuse. Not to give too much away, those who bully & abuse are often victims themselves. That is not a reason to go on to become a bully yourself. When I hear about those who sexually abuse children speak up & tell that they were sexually abused themselves. NOT AN EXCUSE. THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR BULLYING, ABUSE, VIOLENCE, DOMESTIC ABUSE, SEXUAL ABUSE or any form of sexual abuse toward a child or an adult. NO EXCUSE. NO EXCUSE IS ACCEPTABLE. By Jennifer Kiley
Directed by Sundance and Emmy-award winning filmmaker, Lee Hirsch, Bully is a beautifully cinematic, character-driven documentary. At its heart are those with huge stakes in this issue whose stories each represent a different facet of America’s bullying crisis. Bully follows five kids and families over the course of a school year. Stories include two families who have lost children to suicide and a mother awaiting the fate of her 14-year-old daughter who has been incarcerated after bringing a gun on her school bus. With an intimate glimpse into homes, classrooms, cafeterias and principals’ offices, the film offers insight into the often cruel world of the lives of bullied children. — (C) Weinstein
Film review of BULLY:
Bullied like me
Minnesota Star Tribune
April 13, 2012
Documentary focuses on the torment faced by a handful of young students, including two who took their own lives.
Parents just don’t understand. That’s the message of Lee Hirsch’s powerful documentary “Bully.” The parents of kids who behave thuggishly to their classmates shrug off child-on-child abuse as “kids just being kids.” The families of children on the receiving end of nonstop mistreatment don’t comprehend their suffering. The parents of 17-year-old Tyler Long, allegedly the victim of longtime harassment by his classmates, didn’t realize how he felt until he hanged himself in his bedroom closet.
David and Tina Long have been battling school bullying in Georgia since their son’s 2009 suicide. Their story is one of five told in the film, which Hirsch filmed over the course of a year with no lights, no sound person and only a small video camera. While his film is limited in scope (all his subjects live in fairly rural settings), it reflects a sadly prevalent state of affairs.
From the Longs, the film moves to Alex Libby and his family in Sioux City, Iowa. “I feel kind of nervous about going to school,” says Alex, whose classmates ostracize him. “I like learning, but I have trouble making friends.” He enters seventh grade fearful it will be another chapter in a continuing story of humiliation. “They punch me, strangle me, take things from me, sit on me. Sometimes they push me so hard it makes me want to be the bully,” he says. Alex’s mom brings the problem to the school principal, who — apparently more concerned with saving face than addressing the problem — shrugs off her concerns.
But Hirsch’s film captures the perspective of Alex and other victims: physical abuse, insults and threats, school bus rides that resemble mob scenes from “Lord of the Flies.” It’s painful viewing, but necessary. Catharsis often involves going to dark places.
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Published on Feb 24, 2013
A Statement made by the young man who created this video on Homophobia, Bullying & Respect
I’m not gay myself but even so. It’s a shame that things have gotten this bad. I’m sorry the editing isn’t very good, I wanted to get it uploaded asap. Sorry also for the speed of the screen shots, you may have to pause them. It’s a shame that ‘gay’ has now become some kind of derogatory term. It’s bad that in this day and age, people cannot be grown up about sexual orientation. Everyone is equal. It’s those that actually accept that are the winners.
“The sad truth about bigotry is that most bigots either don’t realize that they are bigots, or they convince themselves that their bigotry is perfectly justified.”
― Wayne Gerard Trotman
“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”
― Michael J. Fox
“Our love of lockstep is our greatest curse, the source of all that bedevils us. It is the source of homophobia, xenophobia, racism, sexism, terrorism, bigotry of every variety and hue, because it tells us there is one right way to do things, to look, to behave, to feel, when the only right way is to feel your heart hammering inside you and to listen to what its timpani is saying.” ― Anna Quindlen
“Some people won’t be happy until they’ve pushed you to the ground. What you have to do is have the courage to stand your ground and not give them the time of day. Hold on to your power and never give it away.” ― Donna Schoenrock
“I hate the word homophobia. It’s not a phobia. You are not scared. You are an asshole.”
― Morgan Freeman
“No, you don’t know what it’s like
When nothing feels all right
You don’t know what it’s like
To be like me
To be hurt
To feel lost
To be left out in the dark
To be kicked when you’re down
To feel like you’ve been pushed around
To be on the edge of breaking down
And no one’s there to save you
No, you don’t know what it’s like
Welcome to my life”
― Simple Plan
“Social conservatives seem to see a bigger threat to marriage from committed gay couples who want in on it than from straight ones who opt out of it.”
― Margaret Talbot
“1. Bullying is not okay. Period.
2. Freedom of religion does not give you the right to physically or verbally assault people.
3. If your sincerely-held religious beliefs require you to bully children, then your beliefs are fucked up.”
― Jim C. Hines
“What would my first sergeant do if he came across me and another girl getting it on? He’d want pictures. He’d want to join in. He’d want me and this other girl to double-team him right then and there. On the other hand, since most heterosexual men are homophobic and sexist, most straight guys figure gay men will treat them the way they themselves treat women- that is, like sex objects. And this freaks them the fuck out.” ― Kayla Williams, Love My Rifle More than You: Young and Female in the U.S. Army
“It gets better. It seems hard, you know, I think being different is always gonna be a tough climb. There’s always gonna be people that are scared of it. But at the end of the day you give those bullies, those people, that are so ignorant, if you give them the power to affect you, you’re letting them win. And they don’t deserve that. What you’re doing by being yourself is you’re keeping it real, and you’re being really brave.” ― Adam Lambert
“The whole world goes on and on about love. Poets spend their lives writing about it. Everyone thinks it’s the most wonderful thing. But, when you mention two guys in love, they forget all that and freak out.” ― Mark A. Roeder, Outfield Menace
“Could a scar be like the rings of a tree, reopened with each emotional season?”
― Magenta Periwinkle, Cutting Class
“I have almost completed a long novel, but it is unpublishable until my death and England’s.” — E.M. Forster (speaking of Maurice & England at the time.)
“When the Washington Post telephoned me at home on Valentine’s Day 1989 to ask my opinion about the Ayatollah Khomeini’s fatwah, I felt at once that here was something that completely committed me. It was, if I can phrase it like this, a matter of everything I hated versus everything I loved. In the hate column: dictatorship, religion, stupidity, demagogy, censorship, bullying, and intimidation. In the love column: literature, irony, humor, the individual, and the defense of free expression. Plus, of course, friendship—though I like to think that my reaction would have been the same if I hadn’t known Salman at all. To re-state the premise of the argument again: the theocratic head of a foreign despotism offers money in his own name in order to suborn the murder of a civilian citizen of another country, for the offense of writing a work of fiction. No more root-and-branch challenge to the values of the Enlightenment (on the bicentennial of the fall of the Bastille) or to the First Amendment to the Constitution, could be imagined. President George H.W. Bush, when asked to comment, could only say grudgingly that, as far as he could see, no American interests were involved…” ― Christopher Hitchens, Hitch-22: A Memoir
“The concept that really gets the goat of the gay-hater, the idea that really spins their melon and sickens their stomachs is that most terrible and terrifying of all human notions, love. That one can love another of the same gender, that is what the homophobe really cannot stand. Love in all eight tones and all five semitones of the world’s full octave. Love as Agape, Eros and Philos; love as infatuation, obsession and lust; love as torture, euphoria, ecstasy and oblivion (this is beginning to read like a Calvin Klein perfume catalogue); love as need, passion and desire.” ― Stephen Fry, Moab Is My Washpot
“Everyone I say stop bullying it is sad and tears someones heart apart and next thing they do is Suicide because they think that is the right next step! If you are a Person who gets bullied find someone who will stop this! Don’t just kill yourself for the other person to be happy because you are gone! They are just jealous of you and want to start problems and make you a troublemaker! Ignore those mean cruel evil people in you life and spend time with the nice caring sweet loving angels of yours! 😀 Because bullying is a dumb and stupid waste of time! Try to shake it off the mean hurtful stuff and keep on doing the right stuff that is going to help you become a better person and when i say a better person i mean more than a better person! ― Skye Daphne, The Witch who was a princess
“You could move.’ —“Dear Abby” responds to a reader who complained that a gay couple was moving in across the street and wanted to know what he could do to improve the quality of the neighborhood.”
― Abigail Van Buren
“….watch me rise like smoke from fire.
Watch me fly above your hate.
Watch me dance upon your meanness
like a ballerina with posture; grace.
Watch me laugh over your hatred;
watch me soar above your sea of grief.
And know that I am out there somewhere…
C R U S H I N G.”
― Coco J. Ginger
“We’re sick of hearing people say, “That band is so gay,” or “Those guys are fags.” Gay is not a synonym for shitty. If you wanna say something’s shitty, say it’s shitty. Stop being such homophobic assholes.”
― Pete Wentz
“You know, when someone hurts my feelings, somehow it does not comfort me to know that it was deliberate… On the other hand, knowing that someone else thinks they are assholes helps a great deal.”
“I think that’s some kind of rule for the universe.”
― John Barnes, Tales of the Madman Underground
“He had put his hand up in class, a declaration of existence, a claim that he knew something. And that was forbidden to him. They could give a number of reasons for why they had to torment him; he was too fat, too ugly, too disgusting. But the real problem was simply that he existed, and every reminder of his existence was a crime.”
― John Ajvide Lindqvist, Let the Right One In